29 things I’ve learnt so far

30 is a big milestone in everybody’s life. I remember my husband’s morose face when HE turned 30. He was acting as if his life was over. And then came 31 and age stopped bothering him. When I turned 30 a couple of months ago, I felt surprisingly calm. It didn’t bother me that I would never be a kid or a 20 year old anymore. In fact I felt I was at a better stage than ever before. For the first time in my life I felt like I knew myself.

On my birthday, Prasad asked me to look back over the past 3 decades (Wow! 3 decades of life on earth!) and make a note of the highlights of years gone by and my plans for years to come. I sat to do just that but decided to list out the things I’ve learnt so far instead. I like to think that I have learnt a lot of life lessons over the years, but here are a few, 29 to be exact. These are the things I keep telling myself over and over. I hope it helps some of you…

  1. Every morning brings a fresh start. So quiet that inner voice that pesters you with past regrets and future fears and start every day with a big smile and a few deep breaths (This one really helps I tell you. Anytime you feel stuck or scared, remember to do it. And tell me if you don’t instantly feel better).
  2. And about that big smile- don’t care what people think of you. Just keep smiling. Some people might think you are crazy or naive, let them!
  3. Slow down! There is no hurry. Nobody loses anything if you arrive a bit late or take time to do something. The worst thing is, you could be scolded or lose a job. But if you rush, you could lose your life.
  4. Make time to do stuff. To make stuff. Something. Anything. Every. Single. Day. That’s how you can keep that monkey brain calm and productive. Plus, you will have something tangible, useful, pretty at the end of it.
  5. Get up early if you have to. Get THAT THING done. Ha! Not the chores and all. That can wait; your other stuff, the stuff that lights you up.
  6. Most problems can be solved over a cup of hot beverage and with cool friends.
  7. Don’t hold grudge or think ill of others. You know not what they’ve been through.
  8. There’s something you can learn from every situation and person.
  9. Listen to your body. It knows what you really want.
  10. Love yourself. You’re just as special as the people you admire.
  11. Eat well. Eat everything. Eat healthy. Eat in moderation. Stop before you feel too full.
  12. Sleep well. Most problems are caused when you are not well-rested.
  13. If you find something interesting, even a tiny bit, like a topic, a book, an idea, a dream, then chase it by all means. Learn everything you can about it. Make it happen. It need not be useful. Sometimes it is and at other times it might lead you to something else, utterly amazing.
  14. Write everything down. It is the easiest, cheapest therapy ever.
  15. It’s the simple things, you guys, that give a lot of pleasure, like getting away for a shared cup of coffee with the husband, reading a good book and enjoying a good meal with the family; not buying more stuff.
  16. Money is very important. It lets you live the life you want. Earn it. Use it wisely. Save it. Don’t let it become your boss.
  17. Believe in God, a higher power, whatever. Just believe in something other than yourself. Keep doing whatever you are meant to and leave the rest (anxieties, worries etc.) to that God, higher power or whatever you choose to believe in.
  18. Be grateful you are alive. Every single day. Do not take it lightly that you are still breathing and functioning, especially with all the craziness that’s happening in the World.
  19. You could spend your whole life just admiring the beauty of God’s handiwork- our complex brains, the colorful birds, the gentle breeze etc. You need nothing else…
  20. Faith is one the main reasons why there is so much hatred on Earth. Practice the edicts of your faith and let others practice theirs. Respect and admire the beauty in diversity.
  21. NO phones or other digital devices around the kids! Be wholly there and spend endless time with them.
  22. If there’s something you think you will regret not doing, later, just do it today.
  23. Hold onto that child within you. Stay curious. Stay crazy.
  24. There’s so much love within you. Spread it.
  25. Likewise, there’s so much creativity in you. Share it.
  26. How will you know not to do something again, if you haven’t tried and failed at it at least once?
  27. Stumble. Fall. Dust yourselves off. Restart.
  28. You cannot punish someone for the mistakes THEY make. There’s someone else who’s keeping a count on all that. You can only show the right way and hope they take that route.
  29. Honesty is good, yeah, but not at the cost of hurting someone. Always find something nice to say first, before being critical.

Do you have any life lessons you can share?

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6 thoughts on “29 things I’ve learnt so far

  1. Wowww!!!! You have learnt more out of life than any of us. You know how to put your feelings onto writing. Feel like reading it over and over again.
    Appa.

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